Warning Signs

QUESTIONS ABOUT CULTS/FALSE MINISTRIES

From time to time we receive questions from people about cults or other groups. Sometimes they have a friend or relative who is involved. At other times they are asking for themselves. Almost all of them ask for help in determining the validity of the group or the leader of the group.

While it would take several books to answer those questions, a short answer can be found in these questions:

How does the doctrine of the group measure up to Orthodox Christianity? There are doctrinal differences among Christians, yet all Christians agree upon basic things such as the Person and the Work of Christ, His Divinity, His atoning death and His resurrection to name a few. (If you have not done so, please read THE CHRIST)

Can you get to know the leadership? I Thess. 5:12 says that we to get to know those who work among us. If you cannot get to know them, if they are aloof, independent and unapproachable it is at least a warning sign. By itself it does not mean they are false, but it is an indication that everything is not right.

How is the relationship of the leadership with other leaders in the area?

What is their personal, family and financial life like?

Do they have a good reputation in the Community?

Searching the Internet I came across a webpage dealing with Warning Signs of a potentially unsafe group or leadership. The Rick Ross Institute has graciously allowed me to reproduce it here. I believe these can be helpful to those who sincerely have questions about a group or the leadership of a group.

Please let me gently remind you that not everyone gets along with everyone else. You may attend a Church or Fellowship where you have a hard time getting along with the leader. Please make sure that it is more than a personality clash or a difference of opinion before you accuse someone of being false. Please remember Paul's admonition in Romans:

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Rom 12:18 NIV

With that in mind, here are Warning Signs of a Potentially Unsafe Group or Leader:

WARNING SIGNS

By Rick Ross, Expert Consultant and Intervention Specialist

Ten warning signs of a potentially unsafe group/leader.

Absolute authoritarianism without meaningful accountability.
No tolerance for questions or critical inquiry.
No meaningful financial disclosure regarding budget, expenses such as an independently audited financial statement.
Unreasonable fear about the outside world, such as impending catastrophe, evil conspiracies and persecutions.
There is no legitimate reason to leave, former followers are always wrong in leaving, negative or even evil.
Former members often relate the same stories of abuse and reflect a similar pattern of grievances.
There are records, books, news articles, or television programs that document the abuses of the group/leader.
Followers feel they can never be "good enough".
The group/leader is always right.
The group/leader is the exclusive means of knowing "truth" or receiving validation, no other process of discovery is really acceptable or credible.

Ten warning signs regarding people involved in/with a potentially unsafe group/leader.

Extreme obsessiveness regarding the group/leader resulting in the exclusion of almost every practical consideration.
Individual identity, the group, the leader and/or God as distinct and separate categories of existence become increasingly blurred. Instead, in the follower's mind these identities become substantially and increasingly fused--as that person's involvement with the group/leader continues and deepens.
Whenever the group/leader is criticized or questioned it is characterized as "persecution".
Uncharacteristically stilted and seemingly programmed conversation and mannerisms, cloning of the group/leader in personal behavior.
Dependency upon the group/leader for problem solving, solutions, and definitions without meaningful reflective thought. A seeming inability to think independently or analyze situations without group/leader involvement.
Hyperactivity centered on the group/leader agenda, which seems to supercede any personal goals or individual interests.
A dramatic loss of spontaneity and sense of humor.
Increasing isolation from family and old friends unless they demonstrate an interest in the group/leader.
Anything the group/leader does can be justified no matter how harsh or harmful.
Former followers are at best-considered negative or worse evil and under bad influences. They can not be trusted and personal contact is avoided.

Ten signs of a safe group/leader.

A safe group/leader will answer your questions without becoming judgmental and punitive.
A safe group/leader will disclose information such as finances and often offer an independently audited financial statement regarding budget and expenses. Safe groups and leaders will tell you more than you want to know.
A safe group/leader is often democratic, sharing decision making and encouraging accountability and oversight.
A safe group/leader may have disgruntled former followers, but will not vilify, excommunicate and forbid others from associating with them.
A safe group/leader will not have a paper trail of overwhelmingly negative records, books, articles and statements about them.
A safe group/leader will encourage family communication, community interaction and existing friendships and not feel threatened.
A safe group/leader will recognize reasonable boundaries and limitations when dealing with others.
A safe group/leader will encourage critical thinking, individual autonomy and feelings of self-esteem.
A safe group/leader will admit failings and mistakes and accept constructive criticism and advice.
A safe group/leader will not be the only source of knowledge and learning excluding everyone else, but value dialogue and the free exchange of ideas.

Don't be naïve, develop a good BS Detector.
You can protect yourself from unsafe groups and leaders by developing a good BS detector. Check things out, know the facts and examine the evidence. A safe group will be patient with your decision making process. If a group or leader grows angry and anxious just because you want to make an informed and careful decision before joining; beware.

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